Start Shotgun approach to online dating

Shotgun approach to online dating

I'm about to tell you the story of how I went from being a "dateless nerd" to being called the "Don Juan of Online Dating" -- having the longest string of women derived exclusively from online dating sites After suddenly finding myself in the "singles arena" again after years of being in a relationship ... To make matters worse, I was absolutely petrified of approaching women -- and my lame efforts to ask women out always failed miserably. I couldn't deal with the paralyzing rejection I had to endure to find the women who would finally agree to go out with me -- and then, those women always turned out to be the "bottom-of-the-barrel," if you know what I mean. They were still fairly new back then -- and they seemed like a good idea. Rather than wasting my time trolling bars, clubs, parties, social events, the gym, or any of the usual "fishing spots" on the off-chance I'd get "lucky" and meet women, I thought it would be much easier to sit in front of my computer, join an online dating website, and e-mail all the attractive women I can find from the comfort of my own home -- without having to suffer excruciating rejection because the encounters, at least initially, are not done face-to-face. I wasn't prepared for the frustrating lack of response I would get from the e-mails I sent to women. I thought my e-mails were unique, polite, cute, clever, interesting, sensitive -- and everything I imagined a woman would want in a man. (If you've ever joined an online dating site, this has probably been your experience, too.) What was I missing?!?

I’ve read your profile, and I think you sound nice…” …is way less engaging than this: “What!! Especially online, when women maybe a little more on-guard, opening with a comment on their physical appearance runs the risk of seeming shallow and off-putting.

Besides — if they really are that pretty they’re probably hearing that from every unoriginal guy on the site, and it Sometimes, misguided men will send out first messages that read like autobiographies.

In the next 5 minutes, you, too, will discover the exact methods I used to mine the Web for the "cream of the crop" in available women, get women to not only respond to my e-mails, but also give me their phone numbers, and agree to go out on dates with me.

Whether you're a guy who wants to meet that special someone -- or you just want to meet and date as many women as possible, the "formula" I'm going to show you will revolutionize your love life!

So I started running "tests" to see what kind of emails got the best responses, what kinds of pictures women seemed to like the best, and the best ways to get women to meet up with me in person.

I began to write different versions of e-mails, sent each version to equal numbers of women.

It says “Hey, I might be sort of interested in you, but I’m going to let you do all the legwork.” Don’t give her a nudge and expect her to then message you, because she probably won’t.

This isn’t a cover letter for a job application; there’s really no need to be formal.

So, do you have any advice for how to get my message to stand out? Most dating sites have a flirty option which allows you to express your interest without having to actually message a person.

(On How About We, this is the “I’m Intrigued” button, on OKCupid it’s a wink.) In general, this is not a good way for a guy to approach a girl on an online dating site.

In fact, I'm just your average single guy with an average physical appearance.